{"id":421,"date":"2026-06-09T02:40:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-09T00:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/item\/ich-botschaft\/"},"modified":"2026-06-09T02:40:00","modified_gmt":"2026-06-09T00:40:00","slug":"ich-botschaft","status":"publish","type":"citadela-item","link":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/item\/ich-botschaft\/","title":{"rendered":"Formulate an I-message"},"content":{"rendered":"

A tool that turns blame into understandable requests, feeling and need instead of attack.<\/p>\n

Duration:<\/strong> 5 minutes of preparation<\/span>When:<\/strong> Before difficult conversations<\/span><\/div>\n

Here’s how<\/h2>\n
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  1. Describe the situation plainly: “When \u2026” (no “always”, no “never”).<\/li>\n
  2. Name your feeling: “\u2026 I feel \u2026”.<\/li>\n
  3. Name your need: “\u2026 because \u2026 matters to me.”<\/li>\n
  4. Make a concrete request: “Would you be willing to \u2026?”<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    A calm self-help exercise, no substitute for therapy. Leave out whatever doesn’t feel good.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Ein Werkzeug, das Vorw\u00fcrfe in verst\u00e4ndliche Bitten verwandelt, Gef\u00fchl und Bed\u00fcrfnis statt Angriff. Dauer: 5 Minuten VorbereitungWann: Vor heiklen Gespr\u00e4chen So geht’s Beschreibe die Situation sachlich: \u201eWenn \u2026“ (kein \u201eimmer“, kein \u201enie“). Benenne dein Gef\u00fchl: \u201e\u2026 f\u00fchle ich mich \u2026“. Nenne dein Bed\u00fcrfnis: \u201e\u2026 weil mir \u2026 wichtig ist.“ Formuliere eine konkrete Bitte: \u201eW\u00e4rst du […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","citadela-item-category":[12],"citadela-item-location":[],"class_list":["post-421","citadela-item","type-citadela-item","status-publish","hentry","citadela-item-category-beziehungen"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/citadela-item\/421","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/citadela-item"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/citadela-item"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=421"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/citadela-item\/421\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=421"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"citadela-item-category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/citadela-item-category?post=421"},{"taxonomy":"citadela-item-location","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gentlecoach.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/citadela-item-location?post=421"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}