Big life decisions often fail on the demand to be sure beforehand. Certainty about a path rarely arises from thinking, it arises from experience. That is why the small experiment beats the big leap.
Why pure rumination doesn’t help
In your head the same arguments go round in circles because the real experience is missing. Whether something suits you is hard to think out, you have to do it small.
Small, real, reversible
- Small: a course, a conversation, a trial day, not the resignation straight away.
- Real: close to the real thing (talk to someone who does it).
- Reversible: You risk little and learn a lot.
An experiment gives you data about yourself: energy or exhaustion? Curiosity or relief that it’s over? These signals are more honest than any pros-and-cons list.
How to begin
For the next two weeks, choose one small experiment in the direction that pulls you. Afterwards you know more, and the next step becomes clearer.
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