Perfectionism passes for a virtue, “I’m just thorough”. Often fear sits behind it: of mistakes, of criticism, of the sense of not being enough. And that is exactly what blocks. Whoever must be perfect starts hesitantly and rarely finishes.
Standards and perfectionism
A healthy standard wants good work and is then content. Perfectionism, by contrast, seeks flawlessness and never arrives.
Done beats perfect
A finished “good enough” gets you further than a perfect work that never gets done. Finishing creates feedback, learning and momentum.
Three de-escalators
- A good-enough line: decide in advance what is enough, then stop.
- Cap the time: “I give this task 60 minutes.”
- Plan for mistakes: No one is flawless, not even those you measure yourself against.
How to begin
Choose a task and set your “good-enough” line in advance. When you reach it: stop on purpose. It may feel unfamiliar at first.
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