A time-out in conflict

An agreed stop signal before an argument escalates, so you can calmly pick it up again later.

Here’s how

1. Agree in advance on a neutral signal (a word or gesture) for “I need a break”.
2. Whoever gives the signal commits to resuming the talk later, that is not running away.
3. Calm down separately (breathing, a short walk), at least 20 minutes.
4. Come back and start with what you understood feel, not with the accusation.

A calm self-help exercise, no substitute for therapy. Leave out whatever doesn’t feel good.