Clarifying values: your compass for career decisions
“Should I switch or stay?” rarely resolves with a pros-and-cons list, because the most important question lies beneath: what actually matters to me? Whoever knows their values decides more calmly and stands behind the decision later.Values and goalsA goal is reachable and ticked off (“a promotion”). A value is a…
The three phases of a transition
A new job, a move, the end of a relationship: the outer change is quickly done, the inner arrival takes longer. The adviser William Bridges coined a helpful image for it, three phases almost every transition passes through.1. The endingEvery transition begins with a goodbye, even a chosen one. Something…
Sleeping better when the mind won’t switch off
You’re tired, lying in bed, and the mind ramps up. Appointments, worries, to-dos. Sleep can’t be forced, but you can create good conditions under which it comes by itself. It’s less about willpower than about routine and unburdening the mind.Why the mind gets loud at nightBy day we’re distracted. In…
Why tiny habits win
“From Monday, an hour of sport every day”, and after ten days it’s over. That’s rarely down to a lack of discipline. Big resolutions need a lot of energy and motivation, and both fluctuate. A tiny habit survives bad days too.Small enough that you can’t dodge itA good mini-habit is…