Letting go of perfectionism
Perfectionism passes for a virtue, “I’m just thorough”. Often fear sits behind it: of mistakes, of criticism, of the sense of not being enough. And that is exactly what blocks. Whoever must be perfect starts hesitantly and rarely finishes.Standards and perfectionismA healthy standard wants good work and is then content….
Stop comparing yourself
You scroll, and suddenly your own life seems dull: others travel, found companies, shine. Comparison is human, but it almost always sets your inner life beside others’ shop window. That cannot end fairly.Why comparison distortsOf yourself you know everything, doubts, bad days, effort. Of others you see the high point,…
Small experiments instead of the big leap
Big life decisions often fail on the demand to be sure beforehand. Certainty about a path rarely arises from thinking, it arises from experience. That is why the small experiment beats the big leap.Why pure rumination doesn’t helpIn your head the same arguments go round in circles because the real…
Midlife: reorientation instead of crisis
Sometime between 40 and 55 the big questions surface for many: do I want this for the next 15 years? Was that all? It’s often called a “midlife crisis”, a dismissive label for something healthy: a stocktaking.A review of your courseUp to midlife many follow a plan they adopted early,…